Do you have that friend that always breaks girl code? The one that your men never really are safe no matter how unassuming she is, your secrets are safe as long as you don’t rub her the wrong way, when she excels she hides it from her friends because she doesn’t want to you to surpass her success? I feel like its such a horrible thing we women do to each other. Instead of empowering each other we spend more time trying to put each other down for anything possible so we can feel better about ourselves. I don’t understand why you would talk about a friend behind their back when you are supposed to care about each other. If you need to say something shouldn’t you confront her? If you can’t that is she really your friend? The most dastardly is the woman who smiles to your face and plays like she is your bestie when in fact she is your biggest hater. She gets close to you so she can emulate you then when she is done you are really in some trouble.
I hate that we do that do each other. I am guilty of breaking girl code for selfish reasons but everytime I have I feel I have paid for it dearly. It’s never worth it and sometimes you could lose more than you imagined. Someone invented girl code for a reason right? So, why not abide by it moreover why not just be honest with your friends if they really are? We could all avoid a world of hurt by loving our fellow women instead of hating them. Don’t we have it hard enough as it is?
I think moving forward we should start refusing to break girl code. Stop talking about our friends and maybe enen our enemies behind their backs, stop plotting to get something they have just because you want it, start uplifting women instead of tearing them down. You might find you learn some amazing things about yourself and your friendships in the process. When you lie to the ones that truly care about you the only one you are hurting is yourself because when you get caught your friends realize exactly who you are and move on to someone more deserving. Pretty soon you are left alone and no man or woman really trusts a someone that has no friends from their past or present so all that hard work you put in trying to get to the top only puts you at the very bottom.