I cannot tell you how excited I am about reading this book. Snow Flower and the Secret Fan after going through the New York Times best sellers and a few other book review sites. Nothing really moved me except this book’s description. Something about Asian culture and traditions always interest me.
Last night was our monthly Book Club meeting and after some suggestions were made I had to tell everyone about this book. I was crossing my fingers everyone would be interested enough to pick it and they were!
The second I got home I ordered the book! I know not the greenest choice I do have an iPad at home but there is something to be said about having the actual book in your hands. The book is going to arrive on Monday and I cannot wait!
Our next meeting is schedule for Saturday October 29th. If you want to join the club feel free to post questions and comments which I will bring to my club and answer for you the next day! I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!
Follow Up: Our actual meeting was cancelled due to inclement weather but we managed over email to choose a new book and discuss a little of the book. Snow Flower and the Secret Fan: A Novel
was an eye opening book for me. It spoke to me in a way that actually moved me to reconnect with my best friend (from the age of about 6) after some, what seems now soo insignificant issues, issues and only the second fight we have ever had in the history of our friendship we wound up not speaking for about a year and after reading Snow Flower and the Secret Fan: A Novel
and being in the position of Lily and being able to relate the disintegration of her and Snow Flowers relationship and being able to relate Snow Flowers death to my mothers own death this book totally hit a personal note with me. It made me run back to my old friend and forget about the stupidity that lead to our fight in the first place. The book wasn’t long and may not have been epic but it made a place in my heart for special relationships. Ones that other people might not understand or respect. My best friend and I are two totally different people and I know that in many levels people are confused by our closeness or our responsibility to each other much like Snow Flower and Lily. This book took me to a place I completely wasn’t expecting. I will forever be grateful for reading it and it pushing me to remember how important my love for my best friend was more important to me than any ridiculous fight could ever be.
On a different note the foot binding seemed to be an issue for every book club member. The description of the pain and disease of binding the feet of small children, the pain and incapacitation was horrible to read. The women’s role made me uncomfortable at how subservient they must be. How a woman was always made out to be useless and worthless. I was actually highly offended. I understood after the fact that women were made out to be so much less than men not because they were less than but because they were soo powerful and important that it made men scared so in order to fix their fear they made women out to be weak and useless. The binding of the feet and the pain and torture women must endure to ensure their stature in marriage made this fact even more apparent. If a women could endure to get her feet as small as possible was a sign of her strength and will to over power the idea of her being less than. Why force women to literally break their feet in half so they are barely able to walk? To keep them from leaving and seeing what else is out there for them. Why tell them their whole lives who useless and ineffectual they are? To make sure they don’t want more than a husband and children to make them happy.
As crazy as these ideas seem now I feel they are completely relevant currently. I see so many of my friends and family getting married and having children, not because they want to but because it is apparently the natural order of things. Both men and women fall prey to their pigeon holds. But why? Because why more can we make of ourselves if we aren’t wives, husbands or parents? Snow Flower and the Secret Fan: A Novel
made me feel this more than ever and ask these questions more than I ever have before.
I know no one really reads these articles I write because most of them are alot of commercial bs but seriously do you ever ask yourself why you are dating or why you are married or even more so why you are a parent? Are you equipped for it? Are you good at it? Is this actually what you wanted to be?