I spent my mini birthday vacation with a group of my most favorite girlfriends and the one thing I noticed the most was how addicted to our phones, computers, iPads and whatever device we had at hand we are. While driving, eating, sitting, even sleeping I realized that although we are all completely capable of multi-tasking we all were attached to one device or another. If one was talking on the phone another was texting, Tweeting, Facebooking, Face Timing or Googling.
We are all pretty recently single for one sad reason or another. My group is made up of strong, independent, hustling women who take care of themselves and their families. I respect and admire all of us for what we do, have done and accomplish but disturbingly enough the attachment to technology made me see how much we seem to crave attention. It can be an ex, a Facebook friend, a twitter follower, online dating companion or stranger but either way we were all glued to said attention even if we were giving it to each other. At first I found it humorous how our need fit so perfectly into our schedules. I was happy how we all seem to be moving along in our course of single hood having our cake and eating it too. I like the idea that we are happy enough to have our girl time and get our crush fixes too but after a bit I felt we were all sitting there together but actually connecting with our phones ect.
What I realized was the technology makes us feel inadequate. Our dependance on our social networking and communication has made us feel we are only really relevant when we are glued to our devices. It reminds me of that commercial where the woman is talking about how she finally convinced her parents to get on Facebook and they only have 16 friends but she has almost 700. She is glued to her computer but her parents are out mountain biking with real live friends. That was sort of how this weekend felt.
I don’t really want to be like that. I notice that I sometimes feel like I can see my phone light up when it doesn’t and I check it anyway just to make sure. When I hear a notification on my phone I must check it immediately or I can’t function. This weekend if everyone was preoccupied by their device and I had a lull I actually felt inadequate even though I was in a room full of people. I felt like maybe I wasn’t awesome enough. I was on the verge of texting random people just to have something to do while everyone else seemed to be in a technologically attentive bliss.
My question is if we were all together, some of my closest friends, having a super fun time why did we feel the need to be attached to a device? What more attention is there then actual face to face contact? I am not ignorant to what non-media attention is like or what life before constant activity was. I feel like that sounds crazy because the up and coming generations have everything at their finger tips and will probably never understand what it was like before immediacy. I am a firm believer in many an internet concept and convenience but that being said I feel like we now judge ourselves based on attention we do or do not receive from our social media outlets. I don’t even speak to anyone on the phone anymore because of texting or Facebook.