Have you noticed when you are newly single people come out of the wood works but none of them are expected? It may be because you aren’t ready or maybe they aren’t worthy but they come out of hiding to put you in uncomfortable situations and difficult positions. As much as I love the flattery and the attention I don’t trust any of them for a second. I am to fragile and impressionable to be given attention by those that are less than worthy. It can be way too easy to be swept up in the attention instead of considering the intention. I have to be more careful and selective. At times like these I almost miss the ex because at least I know he is genuine and actually telling the truth.
There is a new breed of man that seems to be catching on. The sappy douche breed to be exact. IDK where this man was born but what ever he is he is contagious to his fellow men because they all seem very into it! I am soo over it. I have spent the past several years noticing this trend that I have recently blogged about. I am over these boys.
Why is it that we go out of our way to “conform” to the norms of what women should be only to realize that these men are conforming to this type of fem culture too? Don’t get me wrong I don’t want a neanderthal but I want a MAN!
What I am finding for the first time in a long time is a slew of dudes I immediately want to put in the friend zone. I have been through a lot in my life and I know many a female friend that have too. Yet, I am seeing this disturbing trend in men who go through some thing and fall apart at the seams. I am almost wishing for the time when men kept everything inside and dealt silently. I am over the criers, confiders, the sensitives and the saps. I am happy with my feelings I don’t really want to deal with yours as well.
Every guy with the exception of a few I have come in contact with in the past few months are the biggest wusses I have come across in years. I am blunt probably to a fault but come on guys! If I wanted to date someone that was that sharing and caring I would hunt women.
I don’t want you to think I am cold and callous but after a while of being with someone yes, i get the confiding, sharing and sappiness. I am completely fine with that. What I am not fine with is the immediate emotional situation that puts me in a state of panic because I can only assume that this sensitivity will increase with time. If they are that sensitive what can I bring to the relationship (adlibed Clueless reference). It is not my style to be the dominate women who chases the weaker man. I know that works for some women but not this one right here.
After all of that complaining I will admit that this over sensitivity has afforded me the opportunity to make a select new group of male friends that I almost cherish. I needed them right now after recently ending a 7 year relationship it is good to have some men I can trust and confide in that aren’t looking to get in to my super fab panties.